"SOON" WTH son? Man up. Just do it.
In some sick way I do feel like dellam actually is part of this community.
He's like the homeless guy you see under the bridge every day.
Part of the community - no doubt, but more like some creep who likes to masturbate in front of little old ladies on the train, then tell everybody at the next station that the old lady tried to molest him.
The really sad part is that he keeps doing it, and remains so totally deluded that he thinks people believe him. He still can't work out that when you are accuse 25 different nanas and every one of them just rotf and says that you're a pervert with a tiny weiner, EVERYBODY knows what's going on.
Sadly communities have these individuals, but they also have mechanisims for removing them from the community. I believe its called a 'shiv'.